HOW TO LET GO OF MY SON WITH AUTISM AND LET HIM TAKE FLIGHT?

My son with Autism, is 13 year old. His name is Niam. Niam has emerging speech and is very independent.

Niam has a mind of his own and does not mind talking back and expressing his likes and dislikes. He is cleaver and knows how to manipulate a situation to get his way. He is charismatic and is able to make people fall in love with him.  As I write this all of this sounds great and perfect, I feel like giving myself a pat on the back and saying “Great Job Mommy”, instead I am full of anxiety. As I watch him grow and struggle for independence, I know I have to let him go. This is the scariest part of having a son with Autism.

Stepping out in the real world with an Autism Diagnosis

                                                               My son with Autism is ready to challenge the world.

While there are some very nice people, there are people who are not so nice, tolerant and patient. My anxiety is real and, I find myself in a situation I worked so hard to get too, and now I am unable to face. Niam has been invited to overnight camp through his school, every time I think I should sign the consent form and say yes, I begin to think of wandering at night, or a lake he may make his way too. Niam is not a wanderer, at the same time, he is not afraid to go somewhere when he is not allowed, like defiant teenager who thinks they know better.

I realize we are in a new phase in our lives and Niam’s development. He wants to explore the world by himself. As attached as he is to me, he does not want me around all the time. He desires independence.  I realize, the issue is not with Niam  or with the diagnosis of Autism. It is with me.

As I move into this new chapter of my life, I pray and hope I have the strength to take each step with my Autism son in stride.

Today my son with Autism, is a thriving artist. He sells his paintings to collectors. It is an interesting time for us as a family, but for Niam a whole new world has opened up.

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4 thoughts on “HOW TO LET GO OF MY SON WITH AUTISM AND LET HIM TAKE FLIGHT?

  • August 7, 2016 at 4:07 pm
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    I really loved reading this story

    • August 11, 2016 at 3:16 am
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  • August 7, 2016 at 10:14 pm
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    I felt the same way when Bouwan was invited to overnight camp…..sooooo many horrible thoughts went through my mind BUT I signed the form knowing he was an amazing kid and I had fought to raise him right. I was NOT happy that I wasn’t allowed to call him but I picked him up and he had the biggest smile on his face….it was one of the experiences that he will remember forever… Sign the paper! One momma of an a beautiful special son to another

    • August 8, 2016 at 1:47 am
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      Thank you so much for reaching out to me and sharing your story. It is so hard to let go but very reassuring your son had a great time. I am going to do it ! Thanks again

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